From a Professional Femdom Perspective: 50 Shades of Gray is Pathetic

From a Professional Femdom Perspective: 50 Shades of Gray is Pathetic

At first glance, BDSM (slavery, discipline, sadism and masochism) may seem like an abusive practice practiced only between unconscious, psychologically disturbed sadists and victims with low self-esteem. Appearances, however, are often deceptive, and with BDSM this misunderstanding runs particularly deep, as is evident in the new cinematic publication “50 Shades of Gray”, an erotic novel.

In a typical novel, the formula goes as follows:

. The man and the woman meet.
. The man or woman has internal and external conflict that needs to be corrected.
. The other partner helps solve the problem.
. The man and the woman live happily.

“50 Shades of Gray” follows this formula to the letter, and that’s the problem (besides the fact that it’s a poorly written movie), BDSM is a healthy practice for healthy, consenting adults. No one needs to be treated.

 

As a professional dominatrix, I constantly work to be more loving, compassionate and respectful to my submissives, not overly manipulative.

A study conducted by “The Journal of Sexual Medicine” found favorable results in the psychological characteristics of BDSM practitioners. Most people who practice BDSM are not neurotic, sadistic adults who have been deeply abused or neglected as children (like Christian Gray) nor walk like Zombies like Anastasia Steele when they meet their dominant partner.

In fact, the study found that BDSM practitioners were less neurotic, more outgoing, more open to new experiences, more conscientious, less susceptible to rejection, and had higher subjective well-being, but were less pleasant.

For all of these reasons (and for all the boring scenes in this vanilla BDSM), I found “50 Shades of Gray” to be a pathetic and disturbing portrayal of what, in a real-life BDSM relationship, would have been like. a caring and intimate relationship between a Dominant and her submissive partners.

Article published by Sandra LaMorgese on HuffPost USA on February 21, 2017

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